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It all sounds really good. My concerns have all been alleviated.
Looks like I'll be giving PC-BSD a go. I like KDE, and for now I want a gentle, not time consuming entry into BSD - I have a 3 year old and a 6 week old (both girls), and a recovering-from-pregnancy, sleep deprived wife, so my geek time is very limited at the moment. PC-BSD is 100% FreeBSD, with ease of use niceties / pre-configurations added on top, so it's as BSD as anything.
Then later when I get enough time, I'll just do a regular FreeBSD and/or OpenBSD install.