Linked by Thom Holwerda on Thu 30th Aug 2007 20:16 UTC, submitted by superstoned
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2005-07-06
> invested so much time into the project,
yes, i suppose it does require you to make a value judgement about my person. how fun to do that in public! =)
there is also another aspect to throw into the mix: perhaps the person got involved and so invested because of the things they are now speaking about. that doesn't help you in your answer, but it does add a bit more of the complexity that is really there imho.
> seems to have been awfully defensive
fortunately it's not my only dimension.
to not defend one's ideas, thoughts and actions has become part of the popular culture, which is to say that standing up it is often perceived as disruptive, unpopular and controversial. the term used most often, and often innaccurately, is "you're being defensive".
there is true defensiveness, where every action is simply a preventative one. look at my entire body of work and i think you'll see that isn't the case.
but to never stand up is to capitulate to the whims of others, and to never stand up on topics where you have feel conviction and have put your own efforts in is, imho, a character flaw.
the trick is to balance between being a push over sop and a reasonable individual who knows when to be quiet as well and, perhaps most importantly, always be able to listen (even when you yourself are sharing the speaking floor).
feel free to correct me on that one, though. =)